add to or get from

"We are here to add what we can to life, not to get what we can from life."

~ William Osler

...disagreeable & delightful

Some people with great virtues are disagreeable, while others with great vices are delightful. 

-Francois, duc de La Rochefoucauld, moralist (1613-1680)

...care for the opinion

We are so vain that we even care for the opinion of those we don’t care for.
-Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach, writer (1830-1916)

...give something

"You can always, always give something, even if it is only kindness."

~ Anne Frank

...returned in disorder

Our memories are card indexes consulted and then returned in disorder by authorities whom we do not control. 

-Cyril Connolly, critic and editor (1903-1974)