...give something

"You can always, always give something, even if it is only kindness."

~ Anne Frank

...returned in disorder

Our memories are card indexes consulted and then returned in disorder by authorities whom we do not control. 

-Cyril Connolly, critic and editor (1903-1974)

very sorry for

I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means -- except by getting off his back. 

-Leo Tolstoy, novelist and philosopher (1828-1910)

lift up

"If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else."

~ Booker T. Washington

...made kind by

"Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind."

~ Eric Hoffer